Never do this, if you love your children so much.

10 things that you do that destroy your family through poor parenting. 

1. Failing to fulfill your promises.

Normally, at one point or another, children deserve promises since what they might be requesting for at a particular time may not be available at the moment of need. It is a norm for parents to make promises that some may not be worth fulfilling but to surprise, some parents never see it as something abnormal. It is always not a problem until the time comes for the promise to be fulfilled and as a parent you end up, providing nothing concerning the promise you made with your sober mind. It is better to avoid promising your child something that you are not sure of, as this, also builds your honesty and creates confidence the child may want to build in you. You see, failing to fulfill your promise as the agreement between the two of you, automatically creates a negative thinking in your child’s mind about you, a point that is always the beginning of him not trusting you as you expect him to. Take this for an advice, that you should always be committed to what you tell your child, if it is a promise, do not take their age for granted by failing to fulfill it to them.

2. Playing blame games on them.

To blame someone especially a child despite him telling his own truth on something he is sure he has not done wrong, is always the longest root into the beginning of your poor parenting nature. We know it that for some mistakes, it is normally difficult to believe someone even if they are speaking their whole truth due to the kind of mentality that automatically people create in their minds against others who they think can do such a thing. Creating such a mentality makes you accuse that person without caring if they would say the otherwise from what you think. As a good parent, the moment you start misunderstanding your own child, that is the moment when your good nature starts falling into a dangerous hole. He will rate you in a manner that you will not be happy if you realize the level you are in his mind. Stop blaming your child for mistakes whose truths you can realize from their words and again as a parent, you are expected to understand your child better than anybody he might come across in his life.,

3. Acting not to care about where they are.

A caring parent will not find it peaceful when not around his or her child, but to some parents, this has grown into a norm and they don’t care to bother if may be the children has even eaten anything or not, what they care about is their living standards. Many parents do this, without knowing that it is abusing their authority as a parent something that later grows in a manner that your communication with the children becomes a problem even they are around, they tend to act as if you are not there. It is always painful to realize that your own children do not want you around something that you induced inside without knowing it. It always advisable to think twice on whatever you think to do concerning your children in one way or two as they were correct when they said that, everything you do has an impact. The impact can either be positive or negative depending on the situation and who it affects. Remember this, the fact that they are still young of age, doesn’t mean that they don’t see what you do, to surprise you, these kids take every note on whatever you do and that is where they learn and take you as their example. Aiming at being a good parent, always be clear on your steps, when you are far from them, make a call, ask where and how they are, let them know the degree of care you give them.,

4. Sending them go stay with someone else.

This is another thing that always been done by many parents. Parents doing this to their children always tend to say that it is a way to strengthen the relationship among family members as at large. What they always never know is that children readily adapts to a new environment they are exposed to, this affect what you would like to nurture in them. Despite saying that, it is a way to strengthen the relationship, it shows that you as a parent have failed your authority and responsibility by giving the power to someone else. Know this, that someone else cannot bring up you’re the children, the way you want them to be raised so it is better to just do it by yourself, they are your responsibility that you should not stay away from, if you cannot take the responsibility of taking care of them who do you want to care about? Take note of this, if it has been a norm for you, thinking that taking them to go stay with their uncles, grandparent or so, then it is high time you stop if you really want a better family in future.,

5. Calling them names that lower their self-esteem.

Some parents have the tendency of calling their children names or comparing them to animals they know are of bad characters due to some reasons that may be of pretty meaningless to why you call them that. The most discouraging reasons parents give for calling children these names is to make them change their character something that has become a norm in most homes. Animals like, sheep, goat and dogs are always known for stupidity in them, so to children, when you are called a goat, it automatically means that you are stupid something that instead of motivating you towards adapting to a better character, it discourages you and makes you give up on it. The sector of education has been the reason behind parents assigning names to their children where you become a goat, if you can’t do well in class, that is, you keep on failing and cow if you cannot think clearly. It is clear that parents tend to rate their children to always be perfect and should never do anything wrong since it brings disappointments and embarrasses those parents in the faces of their friends. A good parents always knows how to motivate their children, something that is expected from them especially when it comes to issues to do with education, train your mind into this and be on the front line to give your children a better parenting style they will ever need.,

 6. Always expecting much from them.

Expecting something from someone always comes with discouragements depending on the degree of expectation you need from someone, as high expectation never pays. Some parents expect much from their children to an extent of not accepting their children’s failures. You see, this has been the major reason behind their discouragements from their parents who tend to not understand that there are always failures in life and that nobody can always be perfect in life. These parents blame it on their children for not doing something as expected of them making them think as if it is a huge mistake they made. It is a call on to such parents as this automatically brings hope the children has in them as their parents. Know this as a parent who wants the best for their future family relationship, that a child can do better, but not as you expect him to do, he will let you down if you expect high from them. You are expected to understand them better and know their abilities by understanding their areas of weaknesses.,

7. Punishing them without investigating deep into the matter.

Normally, a mistake deserves punishment as a way to redirect your path to the direction of greatness people expect you to go. It is common in families when parents aim at ensuring that a child’s character is changed successfully as it is expected of them. This is not a problem until the parent starts overreacting against his or her child without having to investigate into the matter. It is normal for someone to think negative about you concerning a mistake that at one point you have ever done it in your life, the memory makes someone to point at you when the same mistake is done may be by someone else without them having to investigate into the matter. Same scenario goes into the family where parents blame children for mistakes that at particular time, they have not made but because they had done something similar to that some days ago, the parent up punishing them. It is advisable to try investigate into an issue before you can take the action into your hands and as we said earlier in this video, you should be able to listen to your child and understand when they are speaking their full truth.,

8. Taking their opinions lightly.

Despite their age, children also have the ability to think of an opinion that can save the family in one way or another if only taken into consideration. Many parents act rude towards this with the mind it that the child can never say something constructive to the family thereby not giving the children’s opinions the second thoughts. A child can even correct you when he thinks you are not doing it right, something that the male parents mostly tend to take it as offensive. You see, the male parents always have this problem, they are always right and no one should ever correct them. It is even worse to some of them who are even ready to cast a spell on their children if they keep on insisting on what the parent is doing wrong. A good parent is not expected to get angry with whatever the child says without giving it a second thought. These opinions are always weightless but as a parent, you should be able to add weight on it to bring out something that is of worth to the family. It is high time to avoid taking these opinions just for the sake of it if you expect your child to trust you with any idea he or she might come across next time.,

9. Comparing them with other children.

It is always nice to see a group of children playing with yours also among them; it comes with some happiness in it that most parents aim at. A problem comes when you realize that your child is not of the standard you expect him to be and by mistake, well if we can say so, you start comparing them with other children. It is better to know this, that people has got different potentials and so it applies to children, the moment you start expecting your own child to have some potentials like others, his or self-esteem is lowered down and with time he will be unable to interact freely with those friends he has due to the thinking he develops in the mind that he cannot reach their standards. This induces social anxiety in them that may affect them in their future life and all these, because of your weak point as a parent. Be a good parent when you understand and accept it that your child cannot be somebody else, never. Instead of expecting him to be like other children, train him to be who truly is.,

10. Listing them last in your priority list.

Making something a priority always means shows the level by which you prefer that specific thing to other things you might need for life. As a parent, it is always better if you give the priority first to your child and ensure he is the first person you think about when you wake up in the morning and the last before you give in to sleep at night. By doing this, it will ensure that you be on the safeness side when it comes to caring about your children, we mean, you will create time to know how they actually live it throughout the day till its end. The problem with most people is that, they tend to give their jobs the first priority before they can even think of anything else not knowing that they are weakening the bond the family requires for its better survival they dream of everyday. You see, the moment this happens to you, as in, when you realize that you are thinking more about your job than you do for the family, it is better to reframe your job schedule to include your free time that you can spend with your family.,